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‘I am single and happy.’
How often have you heard someone make that statement and actually mean it?
Do you know that some people claim to be happy as a way of covering up their frustrated and boring lifestyle?
Others pretend to be happy just to get back at their married friends or colleagues who seem to be rubbing their married status all over the place.
The question is, do you think you owe anybody an explanation? I mean, what is the point in you trying so hard to sell how happy you are to others?
I know we are in the social media era where everyone likes to show off their happiness on the internet, whether real or fake. But that is what keeps social media trendy. Without those posts, I don’t think some of us would like to go scrolling endlessly online, right?
However, your happiness is your choice and you do not have to explain it. This is because it always shows. You can tell a happy person apart from a grumpy frustrated person from their attitude towards the people around them.
Being Single Does Not Mean You Are Incomplete
If you are one of those who think that they will be happy when they are ‘completed’ by a partner, then you may be wrong. You don’t need a partner to be happy. Also, the partner is not meant to complete you but rather to compliment you.
Furthermore, if you are not happy as a single person, what is the guarantee that you will be happy even with a partner? The reason is that happiness is a choice.
In other words, you can choose to be happy despite your relationship status.
Therefore, make up your mind as a single person to live each day with the mindset that you are capable, you are valuable, and you are lovable. Remember that how you view yourself and what you say about yourself are very crucial to building your self-worth and confidence.
How To Be Happy As A Single Person
Time For Self-Discovery: This should be your time for self-discovery. Don’t just waste the ‘freedom’ so to speak. Take advantage of the freedom to learn more about what you want out of life and how to achieve it.
Those interests and hobbies you are passionate about? This is the time to pursue them with passion. Focus on achieving personal goals be it in your education, career, personal hobbies, or even fitness.
Learn To Enjoy Your Company: You are happy when you can enjoy your own company. Don’t only be excited when you are with your groupies and downcast when you are alone.
Being alone does not mean you must be lonely. It all depends on what you do with your alone time. It is empowering and liberating to be comfortable in your solitude.
There Is No Need For Comparison: Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone has their unique path in life. The most depressing thing you can do to yourself is to measure your happiness with the relationship status of those around you.
It is not a competition and you can be happy despite your relationship status.
Cultivate self-care and practise self-love. When you treat and pamper yourself with kindness and love, when you maintain your health and indulge in activities that make you feel good; you will radiate the same energy of loving care to those around you.
Then you will be able to attract like-minded people to you because like begets like and nobody wants to date a grumpy frustrated person.
Don’t Give Up On Love: Be open-minded when it comes to love. You may have had a bad relationship experience in the past. That does not mean you have to close the door on love because of your past.
When you have taken time to heal, open up and learn to trust again. Everyone deserves to be loved and there is always someone out there who will love you for who you are.
Aim For Financial Independence: Train yourself to achieve it by setting personal goals and taking control of your finances. You can budget and save for the future. There are so many platforms for investment these days and you can start with as much as you can invest.
Be Optimistic: It is a healthy habit to have a positive mindset. Being single is part of your life journey and you have to embrace the fact that everything happens for a reason.
Maintain a positive outlook on life and use the opportunity to be the best you can be in all you do.
In Conclusion
Happiness, generally, does not depend on relationship status. It comes from within you as a result of how you perceive yourself as an individual
Being single and happy involves a positive mindset, embracing your independence and nurturing your personal growth, practising self-love, taking charge of your finances, self-discovery, not comparing yourself to others, and being open to love as you enjoy your own company.
Being single does not make you incomplete. You are a complete individual with all the potential you require to achieve your life goals.
All you have to do is take advantage of the opportunities that come with being single and live your life to the fullest.